When doing laundry with kids, you'll need to start by going over the wash-day basics with them. These are the basic concepts any kid will need to succeed in the world of dirty laundry.
The whole process can be broken down into three main steps: getting the dirty clothes to the machine, washing and folding the clothes, and putting the clean clothes away.
Let's talk about each step in turn and get started.
Of course, you have to get the dirty duds off the child, into the laundry basket or hamper, and finally, into the laundry room before any laundering can occur.
Here's how to make it easy for the entire family to get their clothes to the machine, regardless of the school-to-practice or gym-to-work rush they happen to be in:
Place laundry baskets strategically. Provide laundry bins for each bathroom or bedroom for garments needing standard laundering, such as school uniforms and play clothes.
Then, position a "special attention" or "stain" basket on the washing machine for clothes sporting visible drips, drops, or smudges of everything from finger paints to Cross pen leaks.
Less-visible everyday splotches usually come out well if you wash as directed with enzyme-containing laundry detergent and bleach if safe for the fabric. And last, place a "dry cleaning" basket in one of the bathrooms for those items labeled "Dry Clean Only."
Here is my favorite pre-laundry trick for shaving time off the laundering process and removing the "Whose sock is it, anyway?" question when doing laundry with kids.
A few months ago, frustrated to the breaking point by complaints from the troops about getting mismatched or someone else's socks, I instituted the "Clipped Sock Rule." If dirty socks aren't clipped with their mates, they go out of the dryer directly into the "homeless sock" basket. No whining allowed.
Before putting their socks into the laundry basket, each family member clips each pair of socks together with a clothespin. To make identifying the clipped sock pairs easy, I picked up an industrial-size clothespin bag, the kind that comes with four colors of clothespins.
Then I assigned each of us a color: my daughter Lyndsay is blue, I"m yellow, and Chris Jr. is red. I'm happy to report that the socks stay clipped together through the laundry process. What a difference a clip makes! The tedious matching of socks is history. I have no more complaints about missing socks or misdelivered pairs.
Just about every kid has a favorite item that she's always wearing, making laundering it regularly a bit tricky.
If this describes a child in your home, you may want to forgo the power struggles and instead go back to the store you purchased it from to get a second item just like the first.
Try reasoning (or mild threats) with older kids. Tell your daughter that if a said item doesn't make it to the basket on laundry day, it will be out of commission for an entire week.
Or, you can get really tough and tell your son that he can only wear said item 'X' days a week. More, and it disappears. This is a good time to explain the importance of washing clothes to keep them looking (and smelling) fresh. We are trying to teach good habits while doing laundry with kids.
Whatever you choose, choose something. Continually fighting and begging a kid to hand his treasured article over so you can wash it isn't doing either of you any good.
He's learning that if he resists strongly enough, he won't have to do something. Even something good for his health. And that's probably not the message you mean to send.
Now the clothes are coming off bodies and going into baskets as directed (and not onto the floor). This is good. But someone needs to run the machine.
And it can't always be you. This is not so good, especially if your family has gotten used to your being the resident laundress.
If you have older kids, they can alternate doing laundry for the family. If you don't have older kids, you're stuck with the job. If you only have older kids, everyone in the house could do his or their laundry. What a concept!
The problem with this solution is that you'll have more small loads. The benefit of this solution is that you'll be teaching your kids responsibility while ditching some of your own. (In a healthy way for your kids, of course.)
Here is my simple 14 step approach to doing laundry with kids and getting clothes clean. Share it with your kids. Consider posting these instructions in your laundry area:
1. Treat spills fast. Immediately rinse or blot away spills on clothes to prevent stains from setting. (Dampen a clean white rag and dab at the stain. You'll see color transfer to the rag. That's how you'll know it's working.) Then wash the clothes as soon as you can.
Have kids red-flag stains and spots by clipping a clothespin to a chocolate smudge or tying a grass-stained jeans leg in a loose knot before dumping the garment into the clothes hamper.
2. Before washing stained garments, pretreat or presoak the spot, according to the product directions.
3. Sort laundry by color, amount of soil, wash cycle needed, and water temperature required. (Read fabric care labels before you wash. Your clothes will last longer if you care for them as recommended.) Also sort lint givers, like towels, from lint takers, like corduroy - separate delicates from heavy clothes such as jeans.
One more thing: Don't wash heavily soiled clothes such as gardening duds with your fine linens. Also, you may want to run an empty load (with bleach) after washing sneakers or the dog's bed to decontaminate the machine. Learn to disinfect the washer here.
4. To keep snags and lint to a minimum, zip zippers, button buttons, brush away lint, and empty pockets before tossing clothes into the hamper. Melted crayons overlooked during this process are no fun to tackle. (See the laundry stain removal guide.) Hard objects such as pins and yo-yos can bang around in the washer and tear your clothes.
5. Select the water temperature. Generally use hot for whites or very dirty or greasy clothes, warm for most loads, and cold for delicates or dark or bright colors that could run. Always select "cold" for the rinse-water temperature. It saves energy and is just as effective.
6. Turn the machine on to fill the tub with water.
7. Add detergent and laundry boosters, such as color-safe bleach, bleach, or fabric softener (for fluffier clothes), according to the package directions. If you don't have a special dispenser for the boosters, pour them into the wash water once the machine is filled. If your clothing is heavily soiled, if you're washing a large load or using cold water, add extra detergent.
8. Dump in the clothes. If you have to stuff them in, you've got too much stuff. The machine should be no more than about two-thirds full. The clothes need to tumble around to get clean. Unsure? Watch for rollover of small items such as socks when the machine is washing. They should sink and reappear later if they don't; they're too cramped for their own good. And yours.
9. After the clothes have been washed, check wet garments for remaining stains, and re-treat as needed before drying. If you dry stained clothes in the dryer, the heat will set stains.
10. Once the clothes are clean you can usually just put the load from the washer right into the dryer. Remember, though, that it's best to dry loads of clothes that are similar in fiber content and weight.
Heavier items, such as towels and sweatshirts, require more heat and time in the dryer than lighter clothes, such as gym shorts and swimsuits. Dry only full loads. Tumbling a handful of garments prolongs the drying time by reducing the tumbling. Don't overstuff the dryer, either. Overloading causes wrinkles and increases drying time, too.
11. Set the heat and time for the most delicate item in the load. Don't use a high or regular setting for all clothes. Read the label. Fibers that don't absorb lots of water, such as microfibers, nylon, and acrylic, dry faster and need a lower temperature setting than other fabrics do.
12. Keep your eye on the drying time. Drying a load for too long can cause shrinkage and buildup of static electricity. Over-drying can ruin clothes, and it also wastes energy. (And we know how Dad hates that.)
Leave clothes in the dryer just long enough to remove wrinkles and moisture. Some fabrics, such as Spandex and linen, will be damaged or shrink when dried with too much heat.
13. Fold clothes right away. The longer they sit in the dryer, the more wrinkled they become.
14. Clean the lint screen. A clogged lint screen can make dryers run a long time. That wastes energy and money and causes wear and tear on your favorite clothes. Plus, it's a fire hazard,
When doing laundry with kids, you may need to show them how to do it several times - and then supervise them doing it several more times - before letting them go it alone.
So far, so good. You've set up your home with laundry baskets in logical places. The family is dumping dirty duds where they belong. Everyone is taking turns bringing down the laundry baskets, running the machine, and folding the clothes.
But who's going to wave the wand to put the clothes back into their appointed drawers and closets? If you're fresh out of fairies, here are tips for helping clean clothes get put away.
Make each family member responsible. Each person fetches their laundry basket and puts his or her clothes away. A clean house rule to consider: Any baskets left unclaimed for more than 24 hours (without a school or sleepover excuse) will be removed from sight for one week (into the garage or a closet.)
Once your daughter has to live without her favorite jeans or your son has to go to practice without his uniform, the problem is unlikely to arise again anytime soon.
Make it easy. To simplify the process, make emptying the dryer and folding and sorting clothes by room a weekly chore for one child. The sorter is also responsible for looking out for tears or missing buttons and placing those garments in a special mending basket.
Those with large families (like ours) may have several adults doing the laundry, at least when the children are very young. The solution? I mark the labels on kids' clothing with a permanent clothing marker with dots. One dot for the oldest, two dots for the second child, three dots for the third child ... you get the picture.
Then, whenever a question arises about ownership, it's merely connect-the-dots-to-the-kids time. Change of ownership due to growth spurts poses no problem, add a dot. (Older children rarely shrink, so you'll not have to worry about erasing dots.)
Be cautious as you go forth doing laundry with kids. Mixing water, soap, dirt, and kids can be a recipe for disaster. Here are some solutions to kids' common laundry problems:
Sweater shrinking. To unshrink a sweater, soak it in a sinkful of warm water and two tablespoons of baby shampoo, which relaxes natural fibers such as wool, for 15 minutes. Remove the sweater from the water, and roll it in a towel to reduce moisture.
Pin the sweater to a large corkboard, and stretch it to size. Return every few hours to restretch and repin the sweater until it's dry.
Graying or yellowing of fabrics. For clothes that come out of the washer gray or yellow, rewash the item before it dries, using more detergent.
Color bleeding. Guess they forgot to sort correctly. But all is not lost, especially if the overly colored shirt or pants haven't been tossed in the dryer. Wash again, in the hottest water safe for the fabric, as many times as necessary to rinse out the transferred color. I know about this one. It's a challenge I've successfully tackled in my own home.
Fabric pilling. Many synthetic clothes shed tiny fibers that ball up and cling to the garments. Remove these pills with a fuzz-removing device, such as a sweater shaver.Remove these pills with a fuzz-removing device, like this one from $13 battery operated sweater defuzzer by BEAUTURAL. To prevent future pilling, use a fabric softener in the washer or dryer to lubricate fibers. And remind Junior that overloading can make pilling worse.
Some clothing manufacturers suggest washing clothes inside out because it limits abrasion on the "good" side of the fabric, reducing pilling, and extends the life of fabrics such as corduroy. Use this strategy to keep school names on uniforms crisp and sharp while doing laundry with kids.
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