The problem with the holidays is that they are too short.
We have four short weeks between Thanksgiving and Christmas to make your family's holiday dreams come true.
Forget Santa - we all know who the head elf is here.
So, Ms. Elf - how are you going to pull it off?
Get out your notebook or calendar. You're going to make your own Christmas list. And it will be a doozy. You're going to make a plan - or three - to organize holiday life so that you and your family can enjoy the season without being crazy busy.
Plan A: Write down all the special occasions, dinners, parties, traditions, etc., that you cannot possibly live without. Include everything from Thanksgiving dinner to the school Christmas play, to your annual cookie exchange to Christmas Eve services.
Now turn to the calendar and write down all the occasions that already have firm dates.
Add in tentative dates for all unscheduled events, putting as much time between them as possible.
These dates may change, but at least you'll be holding space for them so you can organize holiday life for your family.
Now, make a list of all the chores and special projects you need to accomplish by the end of the year.
Christmas shopping, Christmas cards, gift-wrapping, holiday portraits, decorating, and any special handmade gifts you'll be doing with the kids.
Estimate how many hours each will take and write that down, too.
To organize holiday life, prioritize these tasks and assign all a drop-dead, gotta-be-done-by date. Schedule as much as you can for early December. Some things have to be done early, anyway.
If you send personalized Christmas cards, you have to get those family photos taken right away.
Other work-ahead tasks include cleaning and organizing for the holidays, shopping ahead, and mailing gifts to friends and family back home far enough in advance so that they arrive well before December 25.
Going back to the calendar, assign specific dates for each of the chores and projects you listed above.
Space these out so that you will accomplish a little bit each week. The whole idea here is to organize holiday life so that you avoid that last-minute crunch.
Now you've got a plan for the holidays. All other invitations or events will be juggled around your basic schedule. This way, you just might avoid wrapping Santa gifts at 2 a.m. on December 25.
Plan A pertains to the head elf (you). Plan B relates to the whole family.
Hey, why should you have all the stress - er - fun? Go back to your list and see what you can delegate to whom to further organize holiday life to ensure things don't get too stressful for you.
Give each assistant elf an area (or two or three) of expertise. Maybe your 10-year-old daughter loves to wrap gifts. Your teenager is an excellent baker. Maybe your husband likes to shop.
Or maybe, you'd better save him for the manly jobs like putting up the exterior decorations. Whatever.
Make a chart and list each family member and the chores they need to accomplish each week to ward off the grinch. After all, the more everyone pitches in, the more time you have for family fun.
If you made a plan and included the family and you're still feeling overwhelmed, something is obviously not working. Reevaluate your plan.
Maybe you're trying to do too much. What can you leave out? Remember that quiet evenings are also a vital part of the holiday season.
If you're always rushing around to parties and concerts and breakfasts with Santa, when are you going to enjoy your lovely holiday home? When will you have time just to be a family? Make sure you schedule some downtime on that calendar, as well. Write it in red.
We keep raising the bar on ourselves. Whatever we did last year, we feel we need to do it bigger and better this year. The dinner will be more spectacular. The gifts will all be custom-wrapped to fit the recipient. We really will go caroling this year...
Sound familiar? Tell yourself what you tell the kids when they write out their wish lists: You can't have it all. And even if you could, it would not make you happy. The trick is to make what you do have very, very special.
You may have to forgo the holiday newsletter. Hey, send it in February. You may not have time to make the plum pudding. Your home may not glisten when neighbors drop by.
Take time to love your children and make your home warm and welcoming - if a bit messy. You are not super mom. You are mom. And that's super enough.