Teaching Kids Household Chores

Ten rules for teaching kids household chores. You want household chores to be shared by everyone in the family. 
But are you sabotaging those beginner efforts instead of encouraging them?

Learning the ropes of cleaning takes time. We can also nurture kids toward becoming cleaning experts by encouraging them and building on their natural desire to please. 

These ten rules for teaching kids household chores help you keep the experience positive.

1.   Teaching Kids Household Chores - Don't Have Too Many Rules

If you have too many rules for chores—about when chores get done, how well they are done, and how much time must be spent to complete a task—you'll do more to defeat a child's natural inclination to want to please than to encourage it.

2.   Lead by Example

As the time-honored saying goes, it isn't what you say; it's what you do that will stick with your kids. If your papers, files, and books are neatly stacked, your child might think twice before he leaves his stuff on the floor.

So do the right thing, whether the kids are around or not. After all, you may as well lead the way, right?

3.   Limit Daily Chore Time 

4.   Do Chores Together 

Resist the temptation of assigning too many chores that will send your children off independently. From a kid's point of view, tidying his bedroom after school each day is downright banishment.

Better still, Create a family cleanup time each day or once weekly where everyone tackles the assigned chores. 

After all, misery loves company, and the chores must be done. So schedule a reasonable amount of time for daily tasks (or the weekly variety) and get to it - together.

5.   Don't Nitpick

Don't be too picky about your child's results; he is, after all, a child. (Okay, you can press the perfection point harder with your teens.) 

And whatever you do, don't let your son or daughter see you redoing any of her chores. When a child feels successful at something, she's more likely to continue doing it.

6.   Focus on the Big Picture

While one goal of housecleaning with kids is to help you take a load off, the more important goal is to teach your children the life skills they'll need to run an organized, efficient home someday.

7.   Ensure Success By Practicing Patience

Take the time to show your child how to succeed at a household chore.

For example, before sending your teen off to the laundry room, tell him about the wonders of bleach on white cotton polos and its devastating effect on black Lycra running shorts.

8.   When Teaching Kids Household Chores, Break Down Big Tasks

Don't tell your preschooler to tidy up his room. That's too daunting. Instead, say, "Let's put all the dinosaurs in the red tub." 

When that task is complete, continue with, "Now let's put our crayons into the cup."

You might not even get the room buffed on the first attempt. Then again, the goal is to make kids feel good about what they did. Make the job small enough to do well.

9.   Make Helping Easy for Kids

Whenever possible, set up your housecleaning with kids in mind. Stash a stool in the laundry room so even your littlest family member can help load the washer.

Place breakfast dishes on a bottom shelf within reach of your 4-year-old so she can set the table herself.

10.   When Teaching Kids Household Chores Praise Often

Be effusive in your praise. Remember the last aced test proudly thrust in your hands after school? Our little ones delight in our joy at the work of their hands. And that can include household chores.