Slumber Party Survival Guide

"Mom, can I have a slumber party?" These words can strike fear in any parent's heart. These overnight parties often devolve into all-night free-for-alls, in which the sweetest kid by day turns into an insolent monster by night.

Slumber parties with nice kids (and you don't let the not-nice ones come) can be pleasant. The key is to establish and enforce rules and boundaries that everyone understands and respects.

This slumber party survival guide can help ensure the night is successful (and survivable) for all.

1 Slumber Party Survival Guide - Don't Make A Sibling Share the Party

If your kid shares a room, don't make (or even allow) the sibling to share the slumber party.

Put the slumber party kids in sleeping bags in the family room. The sleepover contingent won't want to include the sibling. There's no reason to force the issue (sibling). It's not their slumber party yet.

2 Plan an Alternate Activity for the Left-Out Sibling

If you can arrange a playdate or sleepover for him, too, great! If not, plan an evening activity, such as a family movie, that will keep him with you - and out of the way of the slumber party kids (who will naturally have another adult supervising them).

3 Plan Party Activities and Lights Out Time

While you don't have to have every minute of your child's slumber party scheduled, having a general plan, such as a spa theme.

Give your child some good host guidelines before the guests arrive: if the TV's okay, how long they can watch, and an appropriate lights-out time. (You'll notice I didn't say bedtime. We have lots of slumber parties at my house.)

It's important to remind your child that solitary pursuits, such as gaming, e-mailing, or talking on a cell phone, can prevent interaction instead of encouraging it.

By setting guidelines for these activities, you're helping to foster a more social and engaging slumber party. Consider suggesting board games or a theme, such as a spa-themed-sleepover, which will, by its very nature, provide related activities for the group to enjoy.

4 End the Slumber Party After Breakfast

Start the party at dinner and end it after breakfast the following day. Try to go longer successfully at your parental peril.

5 Check In with Guests' Parents

Check-in with each slumber party guest's parents. Let them know what to pack (things like a sleeping bag, a favorite pillow, PJs, and a toothbrush), what time to drop the child off, and what time to pick her up the following day.

Give the parent an idea of the scheduled activities so they'll know what clothing is appropriate. If you plan to watch PG or PG-13-rated movies, this is the time to discuss it with the parent. (And never show any PG-13 film that you have yet to review. They can be very, very naughty.)

Ensure you have the parent's cell phone number if you need to reach them during the night.

6 Plan Some Really Hot - or Cool - Treats

Plan some really hot - or really cool - party treats.

Prepare really cool - or hot - treats for party time. Bake gooey chocolate-chunk cookies, order extra-cheesy pizzas.

7 Stock Up on Party Snacks

Stock kid-friendly party foods for the big night. Leave nothing to chance here as kids get hungry, especially near midnight.

Unless a midnight trip to the grocery store is your idea of relaxing, plan for this and any other cravings your kids might get a hankering for. This is one slumber party survival guide rule you definitely don't want to skip.

8 Stay Within Earshot of the Party Kids

Stay within earshot of the slumber party kids in case squabbling, or other problems arise among them that require a referee.

9 Plan More Sedate Activities Near Bedtime

Plan more sedate activities, such as watching a movie, for an hour or two before bedtime to get the kids to dial down to a level where sleep is a realistic possibility.

Make it clear to all your soon-to-be-slumbering guests that kids who don't at least lie quietly after lights out can expect a midnight call from their parents. And do it.

10 Slumber Party Survival Guide: Lights Out Means Chill Time

Let the kids know when you're going to bed and that you expect them to dial down the activity volume accordingly.
This is the time to reconfirm your previously chosen bedtime. With this slumber party survival guide, all can have a good time - and everyone involved can get some sleep!